How about other people’s rude children

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Have you ever wondered why some hotels, restaurants or entire resorts refuse children? When I first encountered such a resort, I wondered for a few seconds if there was discrimination. I remembered my children, so he was a bit hesitant if I supported that resort town at the end of the logging road with my presence when they opposed parenthood.

This small fit of resistance passed me after a few seconds. I remembered the screeching, screaming “goblins” running between the waiters’ legs, and in my memory I saw children who didn’t hesitate to jump on the padded couch. I realized that not all children sit at the table when they have something to eat. There are children who do not belong to the “lovers”. They are bullies, impious thugs and callous brats who don’t know what other scam they would organize to get their parents to notice. Ignorant people who lack a bit of awareness and imagination that their own speech can disturb, limit or even annoy others. Not far from those rapists, who break your earlobes, villains who don’t hesitate to desecrate a set of upholstered chairs with their sneakers, their parents are seated. And they are having fun. They peek, turn their head away from the conversation, raise their nose and point it at their branch, or shout “Stop now!” And keep having fun without control, and what else this wild pack of wolf cubs will pay attention to. Do you excuse your children with hyperactivity or the phrase that you were “no different”? Or do you pretend that angry children are normal, and add that you can at least be considered healthy? Or are you one of those who would like to impose a “child ban” on half of the restaurants in the city, or go even further so that the “brat virus” does not pass on to your children?

Most people don’t know how to deal with those kids who run into a restaurant, yell at each other at the movies, or are rude in public. Of course, with the inaction of their parents or grandparents. They realize that they want to do something, to tell the child that his behavior is not appropriate. But in a public space, it’s not easy for many. The best option in this case is to avoid a direct conflict with the parents of these children, but not to quit. Don’t neglect it and be active. At the restaurant, you have the option of calling a manager or service staff and asking them to speak to the parents of these children. In the case of a cinema, similar steps can be taken to inform the person responsible for making the performance so that they can do it for you. It’s not about “breaking down” or “re-engineering”, but about taking a responsible approach to children’s behavior and assuming some of the co-responsibility for the next generation. I don’t know what it’s like to grow up in a city, to have a childhood in a giant housing estate, in puddles, circles and next to stored things. In the village where I grew up, neighbors also took part in raising children together, and it was common for us to be scolded and directed by strangers. Our parents were grateful. It often happened that my parents received information about our boys before we returned home.

When judging which behaviors you perceive as unacceptable for foreign children, which manifestations are appropriate or cross-cutting, try as much as possible to empathize with their parents. Some of them aren’t the best role models for their kids, so it almost makes sense that kids pick up on the behavior. Don’t just judge children, always try to look at the situation from a broader perspective. It is certainly necessary that you also understand the situation of those parents who travel by public transport or shop with babies and toddlers. The cries and cries of these little children are largely unrelated to any upbringing, but most often to the natural expression of a child who feels uncomfortable, hot, thirsty, wants to hug and not sit in a wheelchair, or who wants to play with it. beautiful red the wrapper that rustles so loudly. Please be tolerant of these young children. It’s hard to keep a child in constant comfort, especially if you have to fix something, go back and forth, or buy. It is advisable in these cases that you do not give any advice to your parents, even if they were thoughtful, or that you do not blame yourself for what happens to them when they take “children” to the tram or to the store when they shout, and so on. Consider the developmental stage of the child. Going to a restaurant with children is a free choice for all parents. However, it is desirable that they see for themselves if the children can move around and interact with others in these areas.

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Parents should give children the space to find out what’s going on in restaurants, what’s acceptable and what’s not. Preparing them for this experience at home, in theory, is partly possible, but nothing can replace the child for this experience. However, some parental self-exe is more than desirable and driving an inexperienced child straight to a formal restaurant is less than wise. Start with them in informal restaurants, where they are ready for children’s guests. These restaurants are not for those who generally have a problem with children’s naturally loud speech. If a family with unruly children is in a restaurant, where it is common to follow the basics of table etiquette, you should notify management as described above. It should depend on how their guests feel and so it is highly likely that they will look after these children in cooperation with their parents. The second option is, if there is another place in a more distant part of the restaurant, to ask the staff to move to another table. It is very likely that you will not receive a negative response. It is relatively likely that you will find children in shopping centers or supermarkets whose behavior does not correspond to your expectations. If the parents of these children are present, they may be aware of their children’s loud or angry expressions. Maybe they are aware of the child’s condition and are much more upset about it than you are. Most parents want their children to behave appropriately. It is therefore undesirable for you to warn the parents about the behavior of such a child if you do not want to come face to face with a parent sighing on the verge of strength and tolerance towards anyone. If you see a child destroying, throwing, or hurting someone while watching their parents, let the store managers know and let them deal with it.

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You can easily find yourself in a situation where you witness inappropriate behavior of stranger children at home. Your hair stands on end in horror, you can’t believe your eyes and ears, what children can do and say. These children can be part of the visit you have invited, or your children can invite their friends and classmates back home. However, in a certain percentage of cases, your well-considered consent can be properly “punished” by the behavior of a strange child with you. As you can never be sure of how children behave in a foreign environment, it is almost impossible to make a pre-screening. As mentioned above, scolding foreign children in public where they are with their parents is rather undesirable. However, the opposite happens if these children are at home. There you are directly responsible. It is advisable to tell children that they are too loud and to justify why they should do the opposite and use the voice more quietly. Explain to them that you don’t want them climbing on furniture or jumping on beds, chairs and sofas. Don’t forget to justify everything. Children often understand reasoning much better than simply ordering or announcing that this or that “doesn’t happen.” If you calmly tell children what you think of their behavior and talk to them, it is quite possible that they will adjust their behavior. Simply shout, “What are you doing? You will certainly get some of your energy from it immediately, but the behavior of the child may not be affected in the future. Especially when you don’t think of the question before the command as the question you want answered. If you hear inappropriate or vulgar language from the group of children, it is impossible for you not to deal with it. It is more than necessary to tell the children that the words they have spoken are not allowed in your home. Most children will try to adapt and change the way they express themselves. If not, then this is certainly a reason to ask such a child to leave your apartment or house, take him to his parents or call them and tell them that it is time to come look for the child. Choose the same procedure if a strange child is not ready to accept your calm and well-meaning recommendations to change their behavior.

The article was first published in April Fashion Bible Formen.

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