Humans are social creatures, so it makes sense that long-term separation from others increases stress, depression, and anxiety. This is also confirmed by last year’s “coronavirus” research from the Czech National Institute of Mental Health. Our society, like that of the United States, is slowly awakening from a long slumber of social isolation, characterized by intense feelings of fear, pain and sadness. According to American psychologists, people now want to balance these feelings and make up for lost time and lost contacts.
While most young people under 30 should be hitting bars and looking for one-night entertainment, US statistics say otherwise. A long social isolation has increased the desire for true love and caused many people, especially young adults, to think about what they want to achieve in life.
More than half of singles said they wanted to establish a lasting relationship after the pandemic. Only about one in ten people were interested in sex overnight.
“When you’re 20 you have your whole future ahead of you, but you have to sit at home all year and can’t continue to implement your plans, it really makes you think about what you really want from life”, explains Amanda Gesselman of the American magazine Vox, a psychologist and deputy director of research at Indiana University’s Kinsey Institute, said that today people think more about what will fill their life in the future than to short-term satisfaction.
Afraid of casual sex?
Gesselman’s findings are based on a recent Kinsey Institute study on post-pandemic sex. She surveyed 2,000 Americans between the ages of 18 and 45, more than half of whom said they wanted to have a lasting relationship after the pandemic. Only about one in ten people were interested in sex overnight. Interest in non-binding relationships has therefore decreased considerably compared to previous years.
“Given that everyone has been locked up for over a year, a much smaller number of people than expected are interested in getting to know each other one night,” Gesselman said. According to her, the reason is not only the fact that people lack closeness with their beloved partner, but also the fear of germs, which has been raised by the covid pandemic. “This thinking could extend to sex with unknown partners,” he explains.
Instagram sees it the same way
Ilana Dunn, co-author of the Seeing Other People podcast, reports results very similar to the aforementioned study. “Everyone says they can’t wait to get drunk and have a crazy week because they have to. But the point of these young people is to find someone permanently,” Dunn repeats, which she heard repeatedly from listeners and friends. In an Instagram poll on a similar topic, Dunn received more than a thousand responses, 88% of which said that when people get vaccinated and the world reopens, they feel more inclined to seek a serious relationship than short-term sex games.
Delayed sexual revolution
According to statistics from American companies that sell contraceptives and intimate products and aids, such as condoms and lubricating gels, the demand for these products increases in parallel with the vaccinations of the population. Many are also looking for a historical precedent that could shed light on what lies ahead in relationships after the “covid recovery”. Some find this parallel to 1967, when tens of thousands of young people gathered in San Francisco that summer to listen to rock ‘n’ roll, experiment with sex and drugs and protest the Vietnam War.
But even according to historian Dennis McNally, the current situation is different. “The message today is that reality is dangerous, which is a very repressive lesson. And I think it will take us some time to recover from that, when we can go out without fear and relax and relax. rest there.” Dunn agrees, that many listeners have no idea what they’re doing on a date with their fun counterpart if they miss the topic of covid. According to According to a study by the Kinsey Institute, which Gesselman also participated in, most respondents fear that after the disintegration, something like something will happen again and they will find themselves isolated again. are very careful and cautious when returning to normal life.
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