Julia, the protagonist of the Norwegian film The Worst Man in the World, which hits Czech theaters in mid-March (and is also nominated for an Oscar), is missing something in her life. He lives with the artist Aksel, but at the party he spontaneously meets the owner of the Eivind cafe. They stay together all night and balance each other in different ways on the fine line between loyalty and infidelity. The sex itself doesn’t happen, as you might expect, so they say goodbye to a clear conscience in the morning. The film raises the question of what can be considered as infidelity and what she does not yet have. At the end of last year, the Czechs were also asked about a survey by the STEM / MARK agency, commissioned by Aerofilms.
Questions about relationships and infidelity were answered by a representative sample of 810 people, 49% men and 51% women. According to almost all respondents (94 percent), sex is clear infidelity. Virtual sex, which includes, for example, sending messages with sexual content, is considered infidelity by 51% of Czechs, and almost the same number of respondents (49%) consider a very close relationship with a third party in which no sexual intercourse took place. be infidelity.
Infidelity is also flirting and confiding in intimacy
“If a person has a very close relationship with a third party, something draws them in emotionally. Often they find something missing in the relationship,” says relationship coach Eva Andriessen, explaining why half of those surveyed consider leaving. infidelity and non-existent situations. .for sex. “For example, he feels with the person, he can confide in him. If we also hide such a meeting from a partner, the closeness in the relationship is disturbed and therefore the trust is broken”, notes Andriessen.
In The Worst Man Alive, Julie and Eivind share a drink, touch, talk in bed, share their secrets, and openly flirt all night. Although they do everything so that in the end they can say that it is not about infidelity, the intentional contact of a third party would be considered as infidelity by three quarters of the Czechs. If a partner was in bed with someone and talking, 68% of respondents would notice.
A similar number of respondents would consider it cheating if their partner flirted with someone all evening, and more than half (61%) of Czechs would feel threatened if their significant other confided their intimacy to a third party.
Infidelity can be forgiven, say nearly 90%
At the same time, the Czech survey showed that we assess the behavior of our partners much more strictly than our own. For example, touching with an erotic connotation is considered infidelity by 57%, against 72% by a partner. “We always see mistakes more easily than others. If someone treats us in an ugly or uncomfortable way, we will always feel it. The way we treat others does not affect us emotionally, so we often do not realize the impact of our actions. We can change it’s our own thinking,” says Andriessen.
More than half of the Czechs questioned say they have never committed infidelity. 36% of respondents admitted to infidelity (20% cheated once, 16% repeatedly). And while men more often think they’re cheating wives, women think they’re men.
The survey results showed that men cheat slightly more than women, with 40% of men admitting to infidelity compared to 33% of women. Or men admit it more openly.
Two-fifths of those questioned would then admit infidelity, and a fifth are convinced that it is better to deny everything. A total of 86% believe infidelity can be forgiven. However, the prevailing opinion is that the relationship will affect this (55%). “We perceive infidelity as a betrayal, it has a big impact on the trust in the relationship. However, it can be forgiven. Partners just have to take into account that it is a long, demanding and cleansing process. morning,” concludes Andriessen. .
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